MANIFESTING BLAHS: FEELING CAN HELP

I was sitting here finishing off espresso and rereading a fiction reread.

Tears of the Moon by Nora Roberts.  The Ardmore Trilogy is one of my favorites.

My mind drifted to a subject I’ve been writing about.

One I happen to be fiddling with at the moment.

Manifesting goals.

And the emotional ups and downs of hoping it works.

My thoughts first went to a conversation I had years back with a friend who asked how I Aaron and I met.

He was ready for a serious relationship.

We were in a bar in Royal Oak, Michigan.  I smiled at him and said the very best thing I learned from the experience was to put the intention out there.

Ask God or the universe, pray, whatever feels right to you.

Then go about living your life.  

I emphasized focusing on activities that brought joy.

We had a discussion on how doing so could get one’s mind off the waiting.

As Petty said, the waiting is the hardest part.

Years later, Aaron and I met up with him and his wife in Southern California.

Where they too had relocated from Michigan.

He drew me aside and thanked me for my words all those years ago, explaining that he followed them to the letter.

He emphasized that he made an effort to go about living his life so he wouldn’t think about what he didn’t have in the relationship area.

I felt really good that it all worked out.  Coming full circle to another goal that I have and the fact I’m searching for ways to go about my business so I don’t have to think about the fact it isn’t here yet and it occurred to me this is an area where feelings can help.

Whoa Whoa Whoa…

– Feelings, Morris Albert

I’ve written previously how I struggle with the concept of fake it til you make it.

In spite of having a good imagination.

I’m too logical.

I know I don’t have the thing I’m supposed to pretend I have.

Ask and Ye Shall Receive

A few months back I was pondering this as I was trying out a new scripting technique and having trouble writing something I couldn’t connect to because it wasn’t real.

Thankfully that doesn’t happen when I’m writing a novel!

Interestingly, while referring to this book in a previous post my eyes drifted to another book on manifesting suggested by Amazon.

Manifest That Miracle by Lana Shlafer.

I downloaded a sample then went on my merry way.

Given my mindset and what was going on in my life I knew better than to try absorbing something new. I simply didn’t have the mental cycles.

I boosted my morale by rereading Henriette Anne Klauser’s Write It Down Make it Happen.

It is an upbeat book about various techniques for writing goals down in order to encourage their coming to be.

Eventually I got around to checking out the Manifest That Miracle free sample.  I knew within pages it would be worthwhile to purchase the book.  For one simple reason.  The author would be addressing a number of questions I had regarding manifesting goals, not the least of which was a technique for getting the feeling part down.

Before going further I will mention two things about this book.

• Her life’s story is traumatic and the details may be upsetting to someone who isn’t in a good frame of mind.

I wasn’t.

To counter this I skipped over the details which was easy because I wasn’t questioning why she was qualified to author the book.

• This is not a book I would recommend to neophytes on the internals of visualizing and writing down goals.

I consider this a 300-level course.

That is just my opinion.  I would never discourage anyone from reading her work.  She does an excellent job explaining.

I just feel people should be sold on the idea that the techniques involved with visualization and writing goals are valid and work.

I was thrilled to find that her way of explaining feelings resonated.  As a bonus and what I came to understand this morning, they are a valid way to fill that space that comes between letting go of that which no longer serves and the arrival of a specific goal.

The big empty.

Event Horizon to the Rescue!

As a writer I easily gravitate toward scripting.  However, without being able to marry feelings to it, the finished product feels like stale bread.

In terms of waiting, yesterday was a particularly challenging day.  To get my mind off my troubles I decided to engage in an activity that always leaves me feeling as if I’ve accomplished something, helping me feel really good even if nothing obvious has changed.

It helps me change my perspective which is worth its weight in patience.

A Bit of Emotional Irony

I designed Event Horizon to help make decisions and/or get clarity on a topic of concern by working through a process that neutralizes emotions that can get in the way.  What I learned is that it works on emotions associated with waiting.

Just what I needed yesterday.

Working the Event Horizon exercises brings feelings of happiness and accomplishment, along with a sense of optimism.  It also brings a number of images to mind as I write the stories that come to mind upon seeing the prompts.  These images evoke more positive feelings.

I’ve found these stories offer solutions to problems I may be dealing with and in several cases, have helped with creative writing challenges.

Feeling good, regardless of the specific event that fostered it, will definitely inject a sense of optimism into the waiting part.  As Lana writes, you feel so happy and so good about the journey you don’t worry about the when part.

Or as Mike Dooley writes, the cursed how’s.  You don’t worry about how it will come about.

Focusing on happy feelings will make it so the happiness pushes out – outshining – anything lesser. 

As Lana points out, there are a number of methods by which to get those good feelings going.  I was fortunate enough to see the app I designed – Event Horizon – is one of them!

Enjoy the journey!