Letting Go of Anger

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This morning I was thinking about a couple I know who have overcome adversity without being bitter for what they had to go through.  In point of fact they shower the world and everyone in their sphere with love and joy.  This had me recalling a conversation with a relative.  

Some years back at a family gathering.

“You were never angry like that.”

It was in the context of how individuals may act out their frustrations, might take their anger out on those around them.  

It wasn’t the time or place to get into it but truth was, I had been angry at one point in time.  I just held it inside.  

Source

Long before the Me-Too movement women in business were facing challenges.

In spite of a few bad apples I thrived in a male dominated industry.

I enjoyed a strong working relationship and work friendships with many guys – customers and coworkers – throughout my decades in tech.

I’m still friends with some of them decades later.

Solution

There came a point where I could see the anger I was holding inside was harming me and I did look for solutions. 

  • I read about forgiveness – the anger harms the person more than the one who did the harm.
  • I meditated
  • I read books on the subject
  • I talked to someone from my church

Weirdly, those actions only made me more angry.

What finally worked?

I will never forget the day.

I was pacing my bedroom raging at the injustice and suddenly – for whatever reason – I stopped mid-stomp and said to myself I had a right to be angry.

I was harmed. Anger is a natural response.

It was an epiphany.  

I had a right to be angry?

I stood staring at my dresser for the longest time with the words I have a right to be angry going through my mind on a loop.  And in that moment the anger dissolved.

It was giving myself the right to be angry that enabled me to let everything go and move on with my life.

Maybe sharing this will help someone going through their own challenge with emotions tied to being treated poorly.

Be well.

Banishing Demons (Negative Energy Pulling You Down)

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I recently launched a podcast series about integrating holistic health practices into everyday living. 

Drawing on my tendancy to use stories to give context.

While the initial episodes focus more on the body and mind part of the equation I do sprinkle in the spirit piece.  

I’ll be including more of the third part of the holistic pie in future episodes.

Wanted to share a recent experience that illustrates I walk the talk.

The Universe Steps In

Kismet in Action.

I was reading through the Apple News feed

Insert whistling and carefree skip down the morning routine trail.

An article appeared that intrigued me with its title.

A piece suggested based on something that caught the algorithms’ eye.

Not even halfway through I knew this was the perfect information at the perfect time.  Even though we hadn’t renovated we had areas in our home that had stagnant energy.

Including some that felt almost ominous.

Energetic Case Study

Bedroom Closet

For whatever reason that closet has long bothered me, to the degree I insisted the door always be shut.

In hindsight this probably added insult to injury since it meant no air circulating.

Aaron and I share the closet and he was baffled why I was so insistent the door always be closed.

I knew something off with the energy in there.

 Excited I might have a fix I put a bowl of lemon water in and yep – it lifted the energy. 

I also sprinkled a mix of baking soda and salt on the carpet with the intent it be vacuumed up in a day or two.

I knew putting a bowl of salt in a room or space where an argument had taken place would remove negative energy but hadn’t heard of the mix before.

Weirdly enough after the space was vacuumed the energy came down again.

I did a repeat lemon water treatment.

When I came to the realization I was going to have to do at least one more lemon water – maybe every couple of days indefinitely – I decided to get to the root cause.

Keep Digging

The root’s there somewhere.

I’m sharing because – as I mention in my podcasts – conditions are likely to return if you only deal with symptoms.

Holistic healing deals with root cause.

But First…

It isn’t as if I hadn’t tried dealing with the issue.  

For the past several years.

  • Switched my side with Aaron’s
  • Switched front to back
  • Organized by clothing item
  • Organized by color/season
  • Got rid of anything that no longer served

Nothing worked.

I ended up switching the two sides back to how they were.

Out of Sight But Not Out of Mind

Or Spirit

Just so happens I had a small inexpensive box I’d purchased at Michael’s Craft Store containing items that – though they used to hold joy – now held disappointment.

To the degree even thinking of what was in the box made me sad.

The fix wasn’t something I could tackle with a plan.

I’d held onto the items in the hopes maybe the individual who did have the fix might … 

I know. When we leave our happiness up to someone else’s behavior or actions we set ourselves up for failure but I felt getting rid of what was in there was admitting defeat – that the situation was hopeless.

Stubborn Celt that I am I refused to give up hope.

After awhile I shoved the box where I wouldn’t have to look at it.

And be reminded of what I’d lost.

I was determined to get to the root cause of the negative energy in that space.

The box and its contents as they were now energetically entwined.

Timing is Everything

When I opened the box I saw another smaller one inside.  I got the biggest smile!  

I thought I’d gotten rid of it during a before or after move sort/organize.

Not only did I still have this box which brings memories of a wonderful time in my life but upon opening it found things I thought lost in a move!

I was so happy!

After securing the box and the items it contained I turned to the other box.

And items representing disappointment and sadness.

I wasn’t sad!  Finding those items I thought gone lifted my spirits to the degree I could look at the remaining items dispassionately.

I could also let them go without feeling all hope was lost.

I just didn’t care anymore.  Waiting for something that might never happen was no longer worth my time or effort.

This morning I noticed that for the past few days I’ve been leaving the closet door open.

The monsters hiding inside have been banished.

More adventures coming soon.

Be well!

Vibrations: A Fun and Interesting Side of EMFs

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While earning my doctorate in holistic healing I took a class in vibrational healing.

Textbook was written by an MD on staff at Wayne State University Medical School.

I’ll admit I was a bit skeptical of some of the conclusions.

As well as some of the remedies suggested.**

I withheld judgment and passed the class with an A.  

How ironic that not long after I found myself turning to the remedies which include Bach Flower Remedies to treat mysterious symptoms that were putting a serious kink in my life.

At this point I didn’t know what EMF Sensitivity was.

Fast forward a couple of decades and I find myself observing a fun side of the science of vibrations.

Quick break to tell folks about one of my favorite videos relating to vibrational frequencies.

Enter the Dragon

Our beardie is a pre-Covid buy but one who came just in the nick of time.  

His name is Gyro

As I was the resident expert on reptiles I found myself happily front and center plucking him up and keeping an eye on him when it was time to clean the tank.

We had a Caymen alligator and a lizard when I was a  kid – later had chameleons regular guests – much to the chagrin of my cat – in our home in Florida.

While my memories of these family pets from childhood are generally positive I wasn’t too thrilled when a different reptile paid a visit to my room in Florida one night.

I woke up because my cat was at the end of my bed playing with what turned out to be a snake.  Fortunately it was a Garter and a small one at that.

Bearded Dragons have incredible personality.  

  • Gyro is drawn to deep voices 

He will turn his head and get close to the glass nearest the direction the voice is coming from.

  • Gyro loves to dance to 80s tunes preferring synth bands such as The Cars.

He’s also a huge fan of Queen.

  • Gyro is startled by the color black

When I walk by the tank wearing a black sweater or t-shirt etc he will jump and eye the nearest exit.

  • Gyro apparently knows who’s boss

If another family member tries to pick him up he struggles.  Me?  He freezes and doesn’t move.

I believe it stems from the vibrational frequency of my voice.  

Though I generally talk to him very gently/assuringly and in low volume when I’m about to pluck him up there was a time the tone was not so sweet.

I came down one morning to find the front glass not secured and Gyro eyeing the exit.  Panicked at the thought of having to chase a lizard when there is a cat in the house I yelled “Gyro NO!”  He seemed to understand the tone and froze, remaining that way as I nudged him back into the tank he was half out of and shut  and secured the glass.

Note:  I later considered that while I was repeatedly shouting “NO!” all the peeps in my house slept through the chaos.

One said “Oh I heard you yelling…”

Gee thanks for the concern…

From that day forward Gyro reacts based on the volume/tone of my voice.

I’ve not had to shout at him since.

I generally get down to eye level and talk to him in a low tone I believe sends the message all is well.

I love how he cocks his head as if he’s trying to figure out what I’m saying.

I figure he uses the vibrations -voice tone/volume – as a way to gauge whether or not he needs to hide in the corner.

Just now I cleared my throat and he moved to the corner after which I assured him from across the room “It’s okay Gyro.”

As for kitty and Gyro?  They’ve come to accept each other as evidenced by the fact many times I will come to see Nigel staring up at Gyro and he paying complete attention to the kitty – without fear.

They’ll sit like that for 30 minutes or more as if having some silent battle of Mother Nature wits.

Life as an adventure is the best.

** I was never skeptical of Bach Flower Essences as a healing modality. It was one of the first modalities the British ENT Surgeon I apprenticed with taught me.